If you have ever flown, you are likely familiar with the “put the mask on yourself first before helping another.” When it comes to our kids, as parents, how many times are you doing for them BEFORE yourself?!
For the parents I work with, establishing an understanding of self-care is essential. It’s so easy to lose oneself in the needs of others.
Especially with a sensitive child and sensitive parents.
Stepping into a new year and a new decade, we are being asked to step into stronger spaces within ourselves. This is NOT selfish. This is so that we can give from our fully resourced selves.
Culturally, when parenting, there has been shame and guilt associated with choosing oneself first. Or even choosing your partner, and making boundaries around date time, without guilt.
Have you ever looked at your list of “to do’s” and realized the vast majority of items were for others? Me too!
Though common, now is the time to change this so you are invigorated, inspired and energized again! It requires commitment, yes…and…YOU ARE WORTH IT.
I call this Putting Myself on the List. For sensitive and empathic people, there can be an overwhelm where everything feels like a priority.
It can feel like everything on the “agenda” is important to help define your purpose, “the shoulds,” feel needed, to meet the needs of others so that your system can settle.
This is a pattern that is often learned early on. There is nothing wrong with doing this.
When working with parents, we discuss how common this is and tease out what is truly nourishing and what is out of habit and depleting.
We all want to be present, calm, resourced, loving and kind parents. Practicing regular self-care is a game changer as a parent struggling with their unique child.
Counter-intuitive perhaps, yet the parents I’ve helped haven’t missed “the good old days” of giving too much, giving for unmet needs within themselves, enabling, lack of boundaries and more that comes with choosing others over oneself.
I’ve talked to a lot of parents lately who feel more overwhelmed than usual and unable to do what they have done in the past. Their frustration and despair contributes to feeling trapped and more at a loss.
They know inside, Something. Has. To. Change. They may not exactly know how.
If this sounds like you…I get it. I have been there and have helped others who get it too! You are not alone.
I’d love to help elevate your self-care routine and WHILE you parent your sensitive, sometimes struggling child. I promise it’s not one or the other. Small, sustainable changes can have a profound impact on how you show up for yourself and your family.
Contact me for a free session to learn more about how you, too, can make being in your day-to-day life more enjoyable with YOU in it in a different way.
I’m also booking talks for 2020 and would love to come to you! Gather a group of fellow parents, ask about my coming to your child’s school, or your business with other parents who work with you!
I have two signature talks that might be a great fit:
“Parenting Struggling (but Gifted!) Children: 4 Ways to Bring Peace in the Home When You Have Tried Everything.” It’s for Holistic Minded, Engaged Parents, like you!
“Reducing Your Child’s Screen Use in the Digital Age: How to Create Connection and Avoid Screen Addiction.” A Workshop/Playshop for Parents and their Children.