As we approach the darkest days of the year in the midst of many holiday celebrations, it is common to have mixed feelings.
One of the ways you can feel really “in the dark” about how to change what is not working, is with your kids.
It’s like a dark secret in the darker days.
When you’re in this place, you may not feel joy or like celebrating.
You may even feel guilty because you can’t wait for kids to go back to school. Shouldn’t you feel “grateful and happy” right now? More guilt!
If this is you, you are not alone. Let’s talk about new ways of “doing the holidays and the new year with kids.”
It’s so common for parents to want new and different ways and at the same time have trouble manifesting it. There tends to be a variety of reasons, some of which can be:
- Too overwhelmed to act on it (have ideas of what you want but spend a lot of time in the “what you don’t want)
- Busy “tending to the day to day” and constant busy-ness.
- Don’t have time in your schedule to think and strategize wisely
- Not sure where to start and feel at a loss
- Days feel like a “constant battle of emotions”
Just to name a few….
This is especially hard if your kids seem to need different things than what is being offered “in the mainstream” school and parenting circles.
Hurt feelings, tantrums, “never right,” tears and frustration tend to be the common themes instead of the “something different!”
The best gift you can give your family is getting the right help and solutions for your unique parenting situation.
Rather than more new clothes, the newest gadget or toy, you can receive peace of mind, clarity, ease and a new way to live.
YOU CAN DO YOUR FAMILY DIFFERENTLY.
Take Joanne (name changed). While working on her goals as a mom of 3, she recognized her elevated stress during the holidays and tendency to overeat sweets, desserts and fatty foods. And as you can imagine, overeating this highly charged foods, made her feel short tempered, impatient and even a bit cranky.
Together we helped her CHOOSE ONE THING to change in her family life.
For her it was just focusing stabilizing some simple eating routines that created a feeling of calm, steadiness and strength. A big difference from the “diet mentality” strategies!
This one small change helped her show up with greater calm and resourcefulness with her kids. Like being able to make treats that didn’t trigger behavioral upsets from her kids with food sensitivities!
Here is one of the recipes she made (that our family enjoys too!):
Gluten-Free Holiday Stuffing
Adapted from www.celiacrecipes.com
5-6 cups cubed Sami’s Bakery Millet Flax* OR Food For Life Rice (Choose their Almond Pecan or Millet Bread) about 1 loaf plus
2 Tbsp olive oil
3 cups chopped celery (or 1 – 2 Tbsp celery seed) about 1/2 bunch celery
2 cups chopped onions (1-2 onions sm to medium size)
1 tsp sea salt
1-2 tsp thyme
1-2 tsp sage
1-2 tsp black pepper
1-2 cups Vegetable broth – gluten free
1) Preheat oven to 400°.
2) Toast Sami’s Bakery Millet Flax OR Food For Life Bread in toaster until toasted through and dry. Cut into 1/2 inch cubes/squares.
3) Meanwhile, saute chopped celery and onions in 2 Tbsp olive oil in a large frying pan over medium high heat, until soft. Add spices and pepper as desired to taste.
4) Pour in broth and simmer over low heat for 15-20 minutes. Stir in bread until fully saturated in sauce & seasonings.
5) Place in oven for 20-30 minutes, covering as needed in a pyrex/corningware or with foil, until done.
*We use Sami’s Bakery (vegan/Certified GF; they have different choices) now but have used both over the years
*If you want to cook the stuffing inside a turkey, only add 1 cup of broth.
*Broth amount may need to be changed based on your taste. Start with less so stuffing isn’t soggy and add to desired taste after baking for a little while to see consistency.
Makes about 8 cups Preparation time: 45 minutes
Serving size: ½ cup to 1 cup Baking time: 30-40 minutes
This is one example and one recipe. There are so many unique ways to “do your family differently” this upcoming year!
People think this time isn’t a good time to start with a coach or dietitian (or both) but I’ve worked with many who are so glad they didn’t listen to that.
And one of the fastest ways to bring calm into your home and in your relationship with your children is elevating your very own eating patterns.
With Love and Appreciation for each of you,
Do you want to bring me in to speak with some friends in the privacy of your own home or at your child’s school?
I have two signature talks that might be a great fit:
“Parenting Struggling (but Gifted!) Children: 4 Ways to Bring Peace in the Home When You Have Tried Everything.” It’s for Holistic Minded, Engaged Parents, like you!
“Reducing Your Child’s Screen Use in the Digital Age: How to Create Connection and Avoid Screen Addiction.” A Workshop/Playshop for Parents and their Children.
Love and Blessings,